I have not read this book and I do not intend to read it. I saw these four conventions on the wall in a yoga teacher`s house and laughed. These tenants are what Saniel Bonder, the founder of Waking Down In Mutality, would call hypermasculine ideas to improve ourselves. In fact, they could improve our lives for a while, but like all self-improvement projects, they imply that we need to be repaired and that we ultimately end up with more self-judgment. Although there is an important place for the action component in life (the masculine strength), it is necessary to reconcile it with the gentler maintenance and accept mother qualities of the deep woman. Truly loving ourselves for and with all our human weaknesses is the key to non-evaluation of ourselves and others and surprising unshakability. This can pave the way for a deeper understanding, which involves knowing ourselves as an unlimited divine presence. Here is an improvised list of my 4 chords: (1) Give yourself a break – again and again We have to break a lot of old arrangements and change a lot of domesticated beliefs to really keep a space for someone`s violation or anger on us without judging, withdrawing, defending, accusing, intellectualizing, you share their dream. I also found it strange to judge a book about the behavior of a person who claims to have read it and about the elderly who are the ancestors of the book author. For this reason, I did not respond to Cccc`s comment. If the commentator explained why he thinks the four agreements encourage people to behave recklessly and selfishly, I might have had an answer.
As things stand, I support the idea that, Tolèque or not, these principles are a healthy way of life and are consistent with the best practices supported by modern psychology: to agree with ourselves, not to take things personally (#2), offers us the opportunity to look inwards and find and change old arrangements and beliefs – most often lies from our domesticated childhood – that captivate us emotionally. and push us to react. The author of the article describes precisely the « dream » of people that distorts what people say or do. It is a powerful gift of Totec wisdom. As far as irreprolity is concerned, this word certainly has the connotation of perfectionism, and if you take it that way, you would indeed be going crazy. (By the way, the repress and other agreements you make with yourself are not demands that Ruiz makes of you.) On the other hand, if you set yourself the goal of being blameless with your word, you strive to be as honest and kind as possible with your words, without waiting for perfection from yourself or fighting if you are too short, this agreement with yourself could improve your well-being. In addition to the book and audiobook, there is also an eBook, a four-color illustrated book, a map cover, and an online course.  I like what you say.
If you wrote a book about your spontaneous agreements, I would read it. If we have made relationship agreements (regardless of the relationship) that the sharing for information purposes is done in the name of intimacy and not a complaint or an invitation to fix something to protect me from the emotional reactions I create myself. IMPRESSIVE…..